In the journey of change, resistance is inevitable. When you’re trying to help someone transform, you’ll often hear what’s called “change talk.” Change talk refers to any conversation or expressions that indicate a desire, ability, reason, or need for change. It’s the positive side of the dialogue where the person hints at or articulates their willingness to move forward.
But alongside change talk, resistance naturally occurs. Resistance is the pushback or hesitation someone feels when they’re asked to change. It’s important to understand that this resistance is not a barrier—it’s simply part of the process.
Rather than fighting against it, learn to roll with it. When someone hesitates or disagrees, treat it as an opportunity to explore their concerns. Ask open-ended questions and listen carefully. This approach creates a safe, non-judgemental space that encourages honest conversation.
By rolling with resistance, you help uncover the underlying reasons behind the hesitancy. This gentle guidance supports the person in clarifying their own motivations and can ultimately lead to more meaningful change. Remember, your role isn’t to force change but to support and empower progress.
Stay optimistic and practical. Recognise that every small step is a victory, and every moment of resistance is a chance to build trust. Embrace the process with empathy, and watch as gradual shifts transform uncertainty into momentum for lasting change.