High-status framing questions

At events or in new environments, the questions you ask can make all the difference in forming genuine connections. Rather than engaging in ordinary small talk, use high-status framing questions that invite insight and opportunity from the start. Instead of asking, "How do you know the host?" or…

Four levers of power

Life is a balancing act, guided by four essential levers: time, money, relationships, and health. When you nurture each of these areas, you create freedom and purpose. Often, we emphasise financial growth, yet true success comes from strategic investment in all four. Money can open doors, but its value multiplies…

Do you really want to change?

When you tell your partner you'll change, pause and consider: is that promise coming from genuine desire or just an attempt to ease conflict? From experience helping people navigate meaningful change, I've learned that real transformation only happens when incentives align deeply with your personal aspirations.…

Reject swiftly

Saying "no" can feel uncomfortable, yet it’s essential for protecting your time, energy, and values. Swift rejection reduces uncertainty for both parties, honouring everyone’s need for clarity. Often, we hesitate to say no because we fear rejection ourselves. Ironically, delaying rejection only prolongs discomfort. Practising clear,…

Seasons change

Personal growth moves in seasons, and just like nature, we evolve as times shift. One season might call you to fully invest in your career, while another invites creative exploration or prioritises wellness. Our identities aren't static; they naturally reflect our changing goals, needs, and experiences. Celebrate the…

Lead far, far in front

Leading by example is essential, but sometimes it's not enough to simply be ahead—you must be so far in front that you become a beacon of hope and inspiration. When you lead far, far in front, you set a pace that not only motivates but also ignites…

Men's health: An argument for performance thinking

One of the problems with men's health is that many of us avoid facing our issues early, not realising how these challenges hold us back from what we truly want to achieve. Instead of ignoring warning signs, consider a performance-driven approach to health optimisation. Think about your role…

Roll with the resistance

In the journey of change, resistance is inevitable. When you’re trying to help someone transform, you’ll often hear what’s called “change talk.” Change talk refers to any conversation or expressions that indicate a desire, ability, reason, or need for change. It’s the positive side of the…